during these adolescent years of my life, there could be nothing worse than losing a best friend. nothing more heart-wrenching, stomach-dropping, nausea-inducing than having those few words said to you. of course, i'm not sure how to handle the situation i'm in. the best way to describe it is: i'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. this is how i get out.
option a:
i keep fighting for something that i want so badly to work out. a friendship that i pray can overcome anything. because after everything we've been through in the last nine months of my life, i can't see it all ending here and now. in the mean time, i lose my sanity and my self-esteem. i constantly have to push through being told everything i do wrong, everything i never did, everything that annoys him or frustrates him. or he doesn't talk to me at all. call it the 'silent treatment' or the 'cold shoulder' whatever you please. how long will i have to bear this? months maybe.
why choose option a:
because i know how painful it is to lose a best friend. whether or not he wants me, or thinks he needs me, i don't want to put him through it. i don't want anyone to have to experience that if they don't have to.
option b:
give up. [this totally is not me] leave him behind because i need to do this for myself. say goodbye because after all, insanity is the process of doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. am i losing my sanity? definitely. i've gone out of my way to be his friend. to show him that i'm not giving up. to show him that i am always here for him. he doesn't appreciate it, and considers anything nice i do 'trying to get him back'.
why choose option b:
maybe i'm wasting all of my effort on trying to make this work. if someone doesn't appreciate what i do for them, why keep doing it?
perhaps a poll isn't the appropriate way to do this.
but i'm open for opinions and suggestions.
clearly, the whole story is not present here, but i need help.
do i ride it out hoping that after months of being torn down he'll come to his senses and start acting like a real friend [option a] or does it take me leaving him for him to see how important this friendship was [option b]?
psalms 27:14
ReplyDeletei've gone through/am going through something similar. and i don't know the answer either. but that scripture has been a huge comfort.
I think if it's causing you as much pain as I think it is, then it's not worth trying to make him turn around. He doesn't deserve a girl like you if he can't see what he has when it's right in front of him.
ReplyDeleteBut there is one thing I've learned, and it's that the hardest questions are usually not asked until we already know the answer. So you should look inside yourself and I'm sure you'll find that somewhere in there you know what to do! Good luck.
i think you should move on. he's not worth it. he's been a jerk to you, and it sounds like nothings going to change. if he can't appreciate you still trying to be his friend, then whats the point? even if you do find a way to work it out, somethings going to happen, and it's just going to turn out the same way. take it from experiance. he's a jerk, and no matter what you do, he'll always be a jerk.
ReplyDeletehe's not a good friend, and you could do better.
i don't know you, but i know danny. he's not worth it.
ReplyDeleteif you love the boy, endure.
ReplyDeleteendure it well.
honestly, from experience, i believe there is no right or wrong way to deal with a situation like this.
ReplyDeleteas cliche as it is,
follow what your heart is telling you.
is he worth it, or is he not?
no matter which route you take, there's no easy way out.
good luck, girl.